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The LYLAS Podcast Season 3, Episode 54: "Don't Give Your Power Away!"
Have you ever caught yourself pouring all your emotional energy into a bottomless pit, or letting someone else dictate your mood and self-worth? Our latest chat goes back to basics, matching the raw and authentic nature of our discussion on emotional power and control. We open up about the pitfalls of misdirected emotional investments and share actionable advice to reclaim your power, ensuring your energy is spent on aspects of life truly deserving of your time and attention.
By conceptualizing our energy as a bank, we discuss the importance of investing in reciprocal relationships and the empowerment that comes from resilience. So join us as we journey through the tactics of inner strength, finding freedom from outside influence, and aligning with your authentic self to attract the right kind of energy into your world.
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Welcome to Lylas. If you grew up in the 90s and you know what that stands for, this podcast is for you. Welcome to episode 54. Hey stands for this podcast is for you. Welcome to episode 54. Hey, actually coming to you live here from Breckenridge, colorado. I always like to record out here. This is where we did our first episode it was.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, I can't believe that you're so right that we re-recorded how many times right.
Speaker 1:This setup is very similar to that first one. I have about four books jacking up my mic right now and I can get close to it. I love it. We're making it a little janky, but it works, that's right. That's right, that's right. So topic for this week is giving your power away or ways that we give our power away.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we actually talked about this topic last time. We recorded like two weeks ago and I remember we had really good ideas. We were like going back and forth and like this could be a whole episode, and then I didn't write anything down. So when I looked at the topic for today, I was like I should probably think about what I'm going to say.
Speaker 1:It's the biggest lie that I tell myself is that I'm going to remember later. Like if I didn't write it down, I'm 1000% not going to remember it later. Oh, like I was doing some work and I wrote down last week at the end of a meeting that I would do action item two. And do you think that I wrote down what action item two is? Yeah, do you think I can remember what action item two is? Right, I can't.
Speaker 2:I have no idea.
Speaker 1:So that's fun, and so here we are Right. I can't. I have no idea, so that's fun, and so here we are Right. I digress. So yeah, let's talk about some ways that we give our power away. I think this is a great episode because this is something that I work at and have. But once you start to realize the ways that you're giving your power away, it's very easy to switch and find ways to hold on to that power.
Speaker 2:Yeah, easy.
Speaker 1:Gosh, I don't know.
Speaker 2:That's where I just got stuck at. I was like man. I was also really excited to talk about this episode from our previous discussion, but then even some things that you know kind of not even big things that have happened just today, like within the last two hours, that, as you all know and hear me talk about things like I'm still just like pissed, surprise, right.
Speaker 1:Oh, giving your power away is what it sounds like.
Speaker 2:Exactly, exactly, and I don't need to be doing this, you know, but it's one of those things that is just you can be aware.
Speaker 2:I think that you're doing it, and maybe that is the first step in just being aware whenever you are giving your power away and by power what I think we mean is that we are giving away our emotional energy to something that has no real great value or impact on our life, or one that we can't control or change, that is happening outside of our sphere of existence, or one that we're just still, like, pissed about, that may have happened Like I don't know, two days ago, a week ago, different things like that, I mean, but it's all just like we're carrying around like blood sucking leeches, you know, kind of on our body that do take away the energy that is needed just to do our basic day today tasks or just to even engage in that full level of, like self-care and improvement that we're, you know, trying to do the work on.
Speaker 2:But it just is so trapping to find yourself in that position where we are just, instead of being self-protective and selectively permeable in terms of what we are letting into our being and system. It is so much easier, I think, just to give our power away, and for sure. That, I think, is the that's the easy part.
Speaker 1:Part is like some of it is is just the language that we use, like taking our energy.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know that again is giving them the power to do so versus what I allow my energy to go or what I give my energy to. That's my power, that's my responsibility to set a boundary on that, which is always easier said than done. And I think boundary in general is going to permeate this conversation, because it's all about how we set boundaries, something that's very hard, particularly within existing relationships. If you don't set the boundary from the get rip or when something changes initially, then it's really hard to go back and set a boundary several years into, like, entrenched relationships I don't know if entrenched is the right word, but what's new? So I just think that part of it is you know, what kind of boundaries do we set around ourselves in terms of, like, what has access to me, what am I allowing to penetrate in any terrible word? But like, what am I allowing? What am I consuming, because it's shaping my entire day?
Speaker 1:We talk about that a lot, right? What we allow to like infiltrate our world, because we do have control over that, what we look at when we scroll through social media, what we eat you know how we work, how we move our body all of those things are within our control for the most part. Who we engage with on a daily basis, for the most part, is within our control, not always, but you know, certainly, and that's part of it, like I was just writing out ways that I feel like I try to retain my power instead of focusing on, like you know, like what things have I shifted? Because you can Google and look at all the ways that you give your power away. Right, yeah, but how do you shift and make those changes so that you're not giving your power away? Like, how do you hold on to that? So I wrote down a few things, all right great.
Speaker 1:Maybe let's go through this and see if any of these could apply to your situation.
Speaker 2:I'll tell you the situation too. Maybe this will make it fun, okay, so, as you guys know, I'm a major to-do lister. This is all the time it's my best friend. Probably it's always with me, one of them and one of the goals, and I think I see my to-do list as goals, and so I really want to mark it off and achieve it right. So Monday and Tuesday this week, I have spent time and different points of time throughout those days calling a certain business that comes to our house to do service on something that we have, and every time that I call, I leave my name, my phone number, you know, listing it all out correctly and ask for a call back, also as a piece of information.
Speaker 2:I was the one that found and hired this company to do said service. So my name and information should be the only one that is listed within their thing as like the primary point of contact. And so they haven't called me back, haven't called me back. So in my mind I'm like, well, you know, we've had different weeks of spring break. Maybe this business is on spring break this week and they'll get back to me next, so I'll give them that kind of grace to do this.
Speaker 2:Well, I get a text from my sweet husband because these are my tasks that I'm supposed to be going through and doing, and he's like, hey, guess what these people called. They're scheduled to come out here on this day and time. And I'm like, hmm, so is this another business? Because there are and if you're a woman you know that there are times in which you have to get your car scheduled for a service, or you're having something done at your house, or there are certain tasks that, even though you were the responsible party calling and doing this, they won't call you back. They call your husband instead and I'm like so they didn't want to call the me who's actually supposed to be at the house whenever they're coming to do this, to see if I'm even available. No, the person's whose name is on the order with the phone number and all of this stuff. Instead they called him. So in my mind I'm sitting here like, okay, that's cool, we're not going to call the actual Okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So that's just why I'm pissed, you know well that is. If that's the worst thing that happens to you this week, then God bless you at first. Right, that's true. Second of all. Second of all, I mean we're like insert your power here, Like call them and say I am your contact and I need you to schedule these services with me, not my husband. So please get this number off and use this and be your sweet, kind, lovely self and take your power. Like you know people, it's me, call me, I'm the one here.
Speaker 2:Let me be the scheduler of this service.
Speaker 1:What service is this? What are they doing for you?
Speaker 2:I'm taking care of a damn pool. It's not even like you said. It's not even that big of a deal. I've been trying to get this done for like two days and I just feel like I think for me where I, you can't cross it off your list.
Speaker 2:Well, it's one I can't cross off my list, but whenever we are giving our power away, I feel like there are certain traps that we just automatically fall in and it's hard to get out of that hole once we're in that hole. So for me, the, the trigger trap that got sprung with this where I'm now got a bear claw on my foot is that I feel like it was disrespectful. Right Again, these are not the worst things in the world. Let them.
Speaker 1:Disrespect you Like. Do you care about these people? Do they bear any kind of like weight in your life? They?
Speaker 2:inconvenience me every two weeks to come here and take care of my house.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so call me Right. Inconvenience me every two weeks to come here and take care of my house yeah, so well, that's just like us, right but I I mean as far as like the like they disrespect. I mean, you know, I think is it annoying? Yes, are they being purposeful purpose, unless are you terrible on the phone? Are you like one of those customers that they're like? Oh yeah, I don't want to talk to her, I'll call her husband.
Speaker 2:Like hey, how's it going? Whenever you guys get a chance, we were thinking this day would be great. Thanks, I hope you're having a good one, you know real nice yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, Energetic positive Real nice, real nice until right now not not beast mode well, maybe just take your power back and call all and say, hey, I'm your contact, schedule with me. He's at work, don't call him. Have a nice day, I know, and that's that's a good idea, and that's what I'll do, but it's still it's, and you're right.
Speaker 2:this is where these are my traps, though I don't usually get bit stuck in big traps, I get stuck in little traps, and they all have a similar theme to them, and so I think that that's my issue. Yeah, whenever I feel like there's been something that has happened that's been disrespectful, then I'm just like, hmm, that's a hard one, that's a hard one for me to regain power over. Yeah, and it's a hard one to regain. Yeah, and it's a hard one to get regained power over. So calling them is one.
Speaker 1:I can't wait. I want them as one. Okay, let's go. Let's go through some of these others here. Um, uh, let's see. Oh, another big one, okay. So like letting people go with light and love, this kind of also let these people go with light and love. Maybe you find a new pool service, you know, maybe that's another way you show your power. But like having that ability to let people go without any kind of um grudge, just like grateful for the time we're in a different place and space in life now and letting people go, I think that's also a big way that you take your power back. Instead of being hurt if things didn't end well or if I mean that's the biggest thing, right, because likely, if it ended well, you don't need to let that person go with light love. But when there's a negative ending to a relationship, being able to let go of that and just appreciate what you had at the time, I think is another real way that I've learned to gain my power back and feel good about things despite the outcome.
Speaker 1:Mm hmm, and that can apply to, like previous relation, like romantic relationships, friendships, family ships, you know, all of those types of things. There's no, in my opinion, there's nothing wrong with saying, you know, like we're not aligned in energy anymore and you know, then that's okay, we want different things, we have different values and that's okay. You know, with light and love, I'll let you go. Yeah, seems very powerful to me and I feel like a good way for us to let things go, which is so hard. I know so many people that really struggle with holding grudges and I like to think, you know, I've always sort of been somebody that gets over things pretty quickly. I'm not one to hold a grudge, but you know, I know there are many people I love that are not that way and you know, ultimately you carry that with you and give them the power to still affect you on a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly basis. You know, yeah, why would you give that to somebody?
Speaker 2:So no, that's a good one.
Speaker 1:That's another another picky.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the way I um see, I can deal with those ones pretty good. These other ones are just getting under my skin. Um, whenever I was practicing, it was one thing that I would say if they're not here, they're not here. And so if they're not physically within your presence, then they cannot occupy space in your head. And so, even using that as like a mantra, if they're not here, they're not here. And those moments where you find yourself kind of going down that that other rabbit hole or trap, where you're thinking back at the relationship and whatever else has happened as a part of it, if they're not physically here, they can't be here either. Right Was a way just to kind of reframe in those moments, and it was a solid mantra. If you can just kind of and yeah, repeating it to yourself would work, so but with a lot of that mantra with light love ain't nobody got time for bad energy.
Speaker 1:I was talking to my friend yesterday. We were out on the on the mountain and uh, we were having a conversation, we have deep conversations and uh, you know, I'm like it's okay to recognize, like you know, everybody brings energy. I don't care who you are, you bring energy to a situation and sometimes we feel like we have to bring a certain energy to the situation. But, like in general, however, we're feeling, thinking, being that day you can feel somebody's energy when they walk into a room most of the time, and so you know, if it's not good energy that you align with, like it's okay to be, like love you from a distance or you know, it's that you're just not one of my people, because we really don't have time to waste our time with people that bring us down. Yeah, that don't help us, like you know. Bring us up and make us feel good about ourselves and and give like it's a give, get situation, not a one sided situation. We don't have time for things like that, and we were talking yesterday.
Speaker 1:She's going through a difficult time right now and I'm like these times, these difficult times in life, these real valleys that we've talked about on the show. Like you come out of it and you have no time for bullshit, you have no tolerance for it, because you just realize life is too short to worry about this stuff or to or to waste one minute with somebody that doesn't give you the same energy that you're putting out there, and I think that that is also just so important to remember that that's okay, that you don't have to dislike somebody, you don't have to talk bad about them. You know it doesn't have to be like a big breakup where, like people, it's just with. You know you casually spend less time with that person, right, and you spend more time with people that match your energy or the energy that you're trying to bring into your life.
Speaker 2:Relationships are like monetary investments in a lot of way.
Speaker 2:You know we want ones that are going to build up our account instead of deplete or take it away or cause the market to crash or whatever else from it. They are positive investments that we are making in our life and, um, with that comes the time, which is another valuable component that just can get eaten away from just being in that space with it for sure. Yeah, I think about that too, in terms of like, true, almost like, um, arbitrary relationships. Like with people that we like are associates or feel like we should be like friends and chummy with, but there's no reason to do it, like I would not talk to this person on any other circumstance, not to be mean, but just like you know I'm, I'm having a conversation with you only because these people work together and it's what you should do. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Or like we have to kind of put on like this facade where we're like friends just because we're part of the same group and it's like that just isn't. That's just not where I'm at right now. That's not a kind of relationship that I feel like is one to invest in, and so I have started to like what you said, just kind of put boundaries down and if it's not one of those things. That is creating even a penny's worth of investment almost into things. I just don't know that it's even worth a penny's worth of withdrawal.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree, I totally agree. You have to. You have to evaluate everything. And I don't mean that in like a. I mean I guess maybe I do like in a selfish way of like, oh, it's got to only be a positive for me. I don't mean it that way, because you know relationships like there are times when people are going through hard stuff and you you know that's hard to go through too. It's hard to walk with somebody that's going through something that's really hard Like so it's not all, just like, oh, how is this making my life better? But more of like are they matching what I need out of like a person and a relationship? And that's what I mean by it's got to be an investment in the energy bank. Let's get a little woo. Investment in the energy bank, let's get a little woo here, the energy bank. But you're totally right, it's that investment, yeah.
Speaker 2:It just needs to have that kind of level with it, have that level of meaning with it.
Speaker 1:For sure. On that same note, another idea or another thought I had as far as where you can really, you know, contain your power or at least harness your power, is realizing, um, you know, heart, heart you're going to deal with hard, I'm going to settle in and I'm going to handle this and I'm going to come out better for it. On the other side, and really holding on to that idea of, no matter what it is, whatever you're going through, that, like, you can handle that and that, like you have the power to do that, whether that's, you know, and like one of the examples I give is, you know, I turn all my worries over to God so that I can be present in the moment. I'm not worried about the future, I'm not concerned so much with the past but, like right now, I can focus because I'm not worried about what's going to happen in the future to some extent, right, the things that I can't control.
Speaker 1:I've got to give that over to whatever you serve. You've got to give that up so that you can be more present and also know that, no matter what comes your way, you can handle it. You've got the power within you to be uncomfortable and deal with that you know we nobody wants to sit in discomfort, but you can do it Right, just like an ice bath, just like a cold plunge, just like an anxiety attack, anything you know. Just like anything you're going through um grief, deep grief. It's going to suck, but you can do it, and that is really powerful in my mind.
Speaker 2:And there's a big differentiation between like uh, at least in yoga we talk about it um pain and discomfort. You can manage through and breathe through discomfort, you know, because that is going to create a release in doing so. Now, the threshold is where is that causing pain? You know what I mean Within that practice. But discomfort is something that we can absolutely work with and work through. It's very, very, very uncomfortable and work through it's very, very, very uncomfortable, but it does.
Speaker 2:Taking that inward focus, I think, makes it much more tolerable. The notion that you can do hard things, you have done hard things is an important piece to remember. And then, as you were talking about it like with worries and things about the future, you know another thing is, if you're always so focused on the future, you're never prepared for what happens today, and then that slowly starts to mount and create this pressure that you don't know where it's coming from. And it's because you're not looking where it's at. And where it's at is right here, it's right in this space, but you're so focused on the worries of the future what, what, what could happen that you're unaware of this, and that that's where that's actually happening in the moment yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's so true. Yeah is big and that's what I've come to realize. For me, anxiety is so much worry about future things that could happen. I think a lot of people probably have that similar type of anxiety. But, you know, it's once you realize that, like you're wasting so much of your power worrying about things you really have no control over. You know, and it's like, why am I giving that away when I can give that over to something else and focus on, like right now, you know, and really try to. You know, be present. As silly as that sounds or as maybe overused as that sounds, it's something that I'm working very hard at and keeping my my power to myself.
Speaker 2:And I think, going back to our meditation stuff, that's what it really the drive of that is. It's to, um, to be able to go back to that place of presentness, to be able to go back to those mantras or to the breath in that space. So that way, whenever those things happen, you know you have that opportunity to kind of come away from it with a different set of refreshment or lenses kind of put on your eye, or at least you're more aware of the moment by doing so.
Speaker 1:Or just like tools for the discomfort. How do you breathe through it? Like you think about when you got in that cold plunge, you know, like you had the nasal breathe, like you could do the deep breaths. You've practiced this, like you just went there and it's just from practice, and so you had the tool to get through the discomfort and did you want to do it?
Speaker 2:No, no, man no.
Speaker 1:I'm still cold.
Speaker 2:I still haven't warmed up.
Speaker 1:It's been like a month and a half.
Speaker 2:I'm still cold. I still haven't warmed up, for Christ's sakes.
Speaker 1:It's been like a month and a half and I'm still cold. Well, the other power keeper I got to find a better way to say that but the other power keeper that I thought about and this is something else I think you've always done a good job of I'm learning to do it in my 40s, but it is really disassociating for from what other people think of you and their opinions and you know, take it if you like you, that's all that matters. That's all that matters If you are happy and you like who you are and you doing the work, whatever it is, you know that's really all that matters. And what you put out into the world, you know is for them to receive. But that's like that's where you're done.
Speaker 1:You just put it's like this podcast. We just put it out there. How is it? We're not offending anyone. So like, how it's received is really out of our hands and not something that we should even worry about. You know what I mean? I don't know. Just like you got to put out what you, who you are, and be okay with that. Yeah, and not worry or not think that your worth relies on what other people think of you.
Speaker 2:Right, getting in that self-comparison or approval game like other people or with status or situations, getting caught up in that whole.
Speaker 1:I don't even know but the joneses, or you know, just like that clickiness that can kind of come with things for sure, for sure. So the more that we can just be who we are and be okay with that, you'll find your people. Your, your people will find you.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, and I think that the more um, the closer you get to yourself, uh, the more that those other people will back away because they truly weren't a part of your crowd anyways.
Speaker 2:And you can start to notice and sense that. And what I would caution against is then turning it inside like you've done something wrong. Now you've done the right thing by, you know, turning into yourself, by focusing on what makes you happy, who you want to be and show up as today. And if other people are pulling away, that's not a reflection on something you've done, that is their intolerance or whatever. You know what I mean. And if other people are pulling away, that's not a reflection on something you've done, that is their intolerance or whatever. You know what I mean. The situation is or they're not really like your friend or your person, and how cool they don't want what's best for you. Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, unfortunately that's the case situation. It's not all, but most of the time. If you're bettering yourself in any capacity and they're not supporting you, that's a pretty good indicator that they're not looking out for your best interests.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And so you know it's okay to find new people and then think about all the extra time and energy you have to put into those relationships and nurture those relationships that you know, like we said, are putting coins in your bank, mm, hmm.
Speaker 2:Mm, hmm, yeah, and I think that that's sometimes hard, especially, maybe not even especially, but I'm just going to say it because that's what I felt for, like moms, if you have like school age kids and stuff like that, and you know you have the parties, the friend groups, the activities and all of that stuff, it's almost like you're being thrusted back into an environment of social exchange or social comparison. That is pretty unnatural, you know. So it does have some kind of levels of like discomfort, like okay, our, our kids are friends, so now we have to be friends, kind of a thing. No, no, no, no. But does it feel like that? Or then does that? If you have that kind of disposition to it, then that's where that whole mindset can kind of get caught up in, like with keeping up with the Joneses or, you know, bringing the cookies to the party or whatever it kind of comes down to. That just really leads to that uh self doubt that gets created from that whole process.
Speaker 1:I think what you just said also gives your power away. You start changing your behavior to accommodate people's expectations of you. You just gave your power away. I mean, show up who you want to show up as, and if you want to bring cookies to the party, excellent. If you want to bring hot fudge sundaes right on, you know, like, whatever it is like, show up how you want to show up and if people don't like it, then that's unfortunate. You know that's that. I mean it is. But we have to hold on to who we are and be okay with that and hold on to our power Because it really does.
Speaker 1:It leads to so many other things that, like it just splays out, like you know, the minute we start to give our power away to other people not saying that people that are taking your power or whatever you know that they're bad people. I'm not saying that either. I'm saying, like, realize what you get to harness. There's so much in life we have no control over, but there's actually a lot we do have control over. Yeah, why not harness what we can Absolutely? Maybe everybody else already has this figured out and congratulations. If you do, I'm very happy for you. I am a 41 year old, work in progress, but I have learned a lot in the last five or so years, I feel like in terms of self-development. Funny what happens when you do the work right.
Speaker 2:It is, and it's continued work too, and so that's where it's like you know again, and some of us, I think, it comes down to like we can handle some situations so much better than others, and that's just our gift, you know, and it's not that we have the weakness in the other areas, it's just this whenever things turn one way, it's our gift to respond to it in X way. And then you know again, something like somebody not calling me back and calling my husband will tear me to absolute shreds, whereas I yeah, but why, like I get?
Speaker 1:so excited at the idea that, like I get to choose, Like I have the power to control how I respond, Like I get to like I have even found that recently in situations I've been in that used to work me up very quickly or things that would like irritate the hell out of me right Internally, and it's so much easier now to just be like.
Speaker 1:You know I don't have to be around that or I don't have to engage or I can. You know I can make decisions that help me to avoid being around things that don't make me happy, that don't align with who I want to be. Right Like I can create that and that is really freaking exciting to me that I get to choose. You know what I like, the people that I come in contact with, for the most part you know like you really have a lot of power in that stuff. So it's true, yeah, I'd either find a new pool guy or I'd call him and lay it down for him, and if it happened again, I'd find a new pool guy or I'd call him and lay it down for him.
Speaker 2:And if it happened again, I'd find a new pool guy. There's got to be more than one, that's right.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But that again that comes down to like a gift. That's. That's a skill that I'm working on, like those situations. But I could care. I could walk into any situation. I could care less what any human being there thinks.
Speaker 1:Like that means no, I mean nobody likes to be disrespected. Like I'll get back because I mean I that'll work me up pretty quickly too. But you know, maybe like we need to do some work on like why that works us up. You know why I like to be disrespected, like you know that's the meditation. That's the meditation that's to see what happens in the gap.
Speaker 2:Hey, we're doing it, that's it.
Speaker 1:I'm consistent. Now. That's right. I love that. I love that you're consistent with it. Are you using David G?
Speaker 2:Whenever you recommend one to me, I do.
Speaker 1:Otherwise I use. I got a really good one for you.
Speaker 2:Oh good, I use a Sanskrit mantra for the like, the first like bit of it, and then um, the primal sound one I do for the second, and then you're like this too.
Speaker 1:Um, every day I do the read aloud Uh well, this is what I call a read aloud the um poor dog Can't wait to hear this.
Speaker 2:Poor dog can't wait to hear this. So, out of the um, the seven spiritual laws, yeah, so I read one every single day, that you know the same one every week, so I go through it. Um, but whenever I'm home, penny and I do it together and penny just happens, if you don't know this, to be my dog, so I read aloud to the dog the entire day the law of the day. Yeah, she is going to be.
Speaker 1:She is going to be very spiritually connected, that's for sure right.
Speaker 2:My emotional support animal has to sit there and listen to me read this just scratch me.
Speaker 1:I don't care what happened, right?
Speaker 2:that's normally what she. So if you ever hear on this podcast, she's always by my side and she sounds like a camel She'll go.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's whenever she's over me. I actually don't ever hear her. She's always there. This will give you some ideas as far as where you're taking your power back or giving your power away. Just start to recognize these things in life and we'll put up there's like a top 10 warning signs if you're giving your power away. So maybe look over that. You can check that out on our website, the lilesspodcastcom, and check us out on social media Facebook, instagram, twitter.
Speaker 2:No, we do have a Twitter, yeah, and we have a TikTok, we just never post them and a TikTok.
Speaker 1:We'll be back, hopefully, on our regular schedule. Sarah's been traveling. I'm obviously traveling. Actually, I'm traveling next month too. You probably are as well. We'll figure it out. I won't look like a homeless person next week. This is just my Colorado get up. I don't. My husband loves it out here and to the point where, like I don't even think he notices that I don't shower for like three days and he wants he would move out here, like tomorrow. And I'm like you realize your wife would look homeless every day If I lived in the mountains. Like it every day if I lived in the mountains. Like it's just the vibe up here. You just want to be cozy. Give me some socks, hat, sweatshirts I mean I got multi layers on here. It's going to be 50 in the mountains today, but anyway, this is homeless looking Jenny.
Speaker 2:Oh, I hear you. I'll be watching this on YouTube, which is me now every day. That's my two looks. I tell my husband. Actually, other people say too, I have two looks. It's either homeless or beauty queen. So that's it. That's all you're getting folks.
Speaker 1:No. In-between right no in-between.
Speaker 2:No time for in-between on this one, so that's it All right.
Speaker 1:Well, until next week we out.
